Bringing the queen out on move two or three feels aggressive, but it usually backfires against calm play: every developing move that attacks the queen gains a tempo, and the queen ends up chased around the board while the other side builds a lead in development.
The key word is calm. Don't chase the queen with weakening pawn moves or lash out; just develop pieces toward the center, and make sure each one either defends what's attacked or gains time on the queen. The early queen punishes itself.
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White brought the queen out on move two, attacking the e5 pawn. Black to move.
Which developing move defends e5 without blocking your own pieces?
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